In a new Parenting.com sex poll, 45 percent of moms said foreplay is their biggest turn-on. No surprise there. But 15 percent said they're most turned on by "choreplay," i.e., Dad helping with the dishes, laundry, etc.

Only 15 percent? So moms aren't a bunch of Debra Barone types who've lost all sense of their pre-kids selves and long for nothing more than clean floors and sparkling toilets?

"It's a great thing when someone else does the chores," says Parenting magazine senior editor Sarah Smith, who oversaw the "Sex After Kids" survey. "But when it comes down to it, it's foreplay. It's in the bedroom. You're still a woman -- and a wife, and a friend, and a mom and all those other things -- but you don't become a different person."

It's probably a good thing the TV writers are striking, because they're going to need some time to come up with some new stereotypes, if the 1,300 moms who participated in the survey are to be believed. Could we be approaching a time when TV Mom talks politics or joins a book club or, strangest of all, enjoys her husband's company?

Well, let's not get ahead of ourselves.

Other survey results, which also appear in the February issue of Parenting magazine:

* 78 percent say sex was better before they had kids, but 22 percent thought sex got better after having a child.

* 43 percent say sex was best before they got married.

* 49 percent say exhaustion is the biggest mood killer.

* 78 percent say they felt sexy before having a child, but only 38 percent still do.

* 61 percent say they'd like to have sex "at least a few times a week," while 45 percent say they actually do.

So what's the take away?

"Moms do want to have sex," says Smith. "The trick is figuring out how to make that happen. Kids sleep. They watch videos. You can send them out with a baby-sitter and stay home together.

"Half of our readers said exhaustion spoils the mood," she continued. "But sex is a little like exercising, where once you get started you feel a little less tired. Maybe you should get started."

And for dads?

"They should make sure they express themselves," Smith says. "Women want to hear that they're sexy, that their husbands love them and want to be with them."

Indeed, the surveyed moms say a compliment from a partner makes them feel as sexy as new clothes, a new haircut and a good night's sleep combined (and we all know how much that little trifecta can cost).

Above all, Smith says, "Remember that this is something you do probably really love to do."